Only you truly know yourself and what you’ve been through. Both the good and the bad lessons have helped you to become the person you are today. 

List #1: Divided 

Make a list of all the people that you are not on good terms with or who may not be on good terms with you, for whatever reason. Give this some real thought. You may be surprised how many people from your present and your past come to visit your mind.

List #2: United

Good job! Looking at the bad from your past can be tough sometimes. Thankfully doing so will make this next list feel all that much sweeter. Now, make another list—but, this time fill it with all of the people in your life today or from your past—who have made an impact for good on you. Think hard, dig deep—you’ll be surprised how long this list can go.

Now pat yourself on the back—you’ve just completed step 3. If you feel like your lists are complete put them in a safe place. You’ll need them for step 4.